Letter writing tips

Greetings all,

As I wrote last week I would post my "secrets" of letter writing to the list. I would not normally share this information with the public at large because it pretty likely that a few of those who read it could essentially lie to the ladies simply to get the results.

Before you go cutting and pasting, you really need to ask yourself if the search for a foreign wife is for you. Do you have ample disposable income and savings? More importantly, do you have time to conduct a search, travel to meet women who would like to meet you? Are you emotionally stable to the point where you can remain rational when faced with fairly difficult situations (NP - not seeing the person you want to be with for months)? If you didn't think of all of this before you started, or you are currently writing there is something for everyone here - read on.

You've decided to write letters. Is your goal to write letters or to find an ideal partner? Good. Then writing letters can be an instrument that you can use proactively or passively. If you are proactive, the laws of averages take effect and you can essentially be guaranteed of success in identifying potentially very ideal partners. Beyond this there is little value in letter writing. Those who write letters passively are so rarely successful that we won't discuss them.

You will read a lot of conflicting information when you read various website owners writing their own propaganda, just as I am doing. Keep in mind is these agencies make a lot of money when you are writing letters, some charge $5 -$10 a page for translations and $10 for a letter... They will tell you "Write, Write a lot, write until you feel comfortable (or whatever)" You get the picture.

The fact is that the only thing letter writing can do in the process of finding a wife is provide enough information about a lady to allow you to evaluate if you both have enough interest to meet. It's far too often I see folks write for months and months, and then see everything fade away. It serves no purpose to anyone. Letters can not replace meeting in person. I often ask some of our better letter writers if they felt that letter writing for months was as informative as meeting someone in person for a few hours. You guessed it, a few hours can often tell much more.

There are a lot of ways to go about this whole letter writing thing, I'll only address one here, by no way the only.

How Write Russian women and get 80% replies.

Everything I describe is proven, and I recommend only the best, esp when it comes to photographs. I don't recommend the Sears photo studio. A good photographer will go though 1-2 rolls of film and come up with 3-5 really good photos. These are the ones you want. If you don't want to pay the $200 that a good photographer will want, go and take a few rolls of yourself. Regardless, we'll want to have the negative handy. 80% of the people reading this will disregard it and when they do they normally send the following photos

Those of you who think sending you and your BMW convertible is a good picture are the same ones that wind up with a maxed out credit card whining that she ran off the first guy with a Ferrari. The photos should show you, and just you, don't use a photo with material possessions to entice, you will probably regret attracting the wrong type of girl. A few photos is best. Russian women put a lot of emphasis on the eyes. I recommend a photo or 2 with a smile. A good face shot is important. Remember, first impressions are the most important.

Now, go grab your calendar and determine when you will have free time to travel. If you are going the writing method of meeting pick a date about 3 months from the time you'll be ready to go visit the ladies you'd like to meet. Perhaps there are something that you can do to spend extra time, wind down a project, prepare employees or whatever. Think the more time the better the end results. You'll want to plan on meeting no less than 10-15 ladies. That may sound like a lot, but then again why limit yourself. Writing letters should qualify the ladies and provide you with quality contacts.

Now, Grab you world Atlas, fire up your browser and start looking. Now before you go writing someone in Krasnodarsky Krai, you might want to look to see just where that is. You might look for ladies you could easily meet.
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Make your list of ladies, this will require a fair amount of organization. You'll need more than just their address you'll need what they wrote in their advertisement (if they wrote it). It may just be best to print out everything you can and make a folder do manage the information.

I have found the best way to write letters is in a style I guess you could call romantic minimalism

Hello ________ :

When addressing Russian women you don't know, use the first and middle name, you might use Dearest Lidiya Michailovna for example

"Greetings from the USA! I found your profile on the _______web site. I found you to be a most attractive and genuine woman so I am sending you a note and a picture. I hope you will respond."

The first part of your letter must capture the attention of the lady you are writing. Think hard.. How can a guy capture the attention of a lady. Try a compliment or 2.

Imagine how hard it must be for me to find a few words to start a letter that might change the rest of my life. Since I saw your photo and read your information on the internet, my mind has been occupied with the impression you left on me. You are a very lovely lady, your eyes, your lips, your warm smile. When I heard that men from America could meet Russian women on the internet, I asked myself why would they go all the way around the world to meet a lady when there are so many fine ladies here. Now I understand completely, and have decided that if the love of my life is in another country, I'm in the wrong place."

"My name is Thomas ______ although most of my friends call me Tom and my family calls me Tommy. I am 44 years old, 5 feet 10 inches tall (1.78 meters) and 200 pounds (88.9 kilograms). I live just south of Boston, Massachusetts in the region of the U.S. known as New England."

"80% I am a decisive person, I make a decision and then carry it out. I have decided that if I must go to Russia to meet a lady like you, then I can do that. I have free to visit you on (travel date), I have looked at my calendar and checked on a ticket. I am sure we could learn much about each other in person. Don't you think this is best? I am a very nice guy (at least I think so) and would love the opportunity to get to know you better. I am seeking a true love, a partner for life and someone to create a family with."

"I am a high school science teacher of Biology, Chemistry, and Physics. I have been doing this almost 19 years. I hold both a B.S. and M.S. from the University of Massachusetts. I am not "rich" by most standards but I consider myself very wealthy in the most important things life has to offer ? health, family and friends. Teaching teenagers is frustrating but the work is also steady, reliable, and rewarding. I am in excellent health and physical condition; do not smoke cigarettes, do illegal drugs, and very rarely drink alcohol."

"I work in education, and enjoy my challenging work very much. I am stable and could support you and our family"

"The members of my family are the most important people in my life and always have been. My religious background is Catholic but I have no formal religious ties right now. My mother is alive but my father died three years ago. I have four sisters and three brothers. All of them with the exception of my brother James and myself are married and have families. I have fourteen nieces and nephews. Your little girl will never have trouble finding a playmate.

How much of this information is needed. Is her concern that her little daughter will have a playmate. Religion is noted as not being formal, but then God doesn't bless you with a family. Past failures and so on have no place in an introductory letter. You might be better off addressing the issues that concern you.

"80% You write that you seek a loving and caring man who wishes to make a family. I believe that the family should be the center of ones life, a person may have all the wealth in the world but if he have no love he is poor and if his life has not lead to children I feel his life has been fruitless. Children require loving parents, and when they have them they can grow into very beautiful people. Wouldn't you agree your daughter is the most precious part of your life? How I envy you that you have such a source of joy. I can assure you that I would think of our family first, and that my family would accept you and your daughter with great joy. I lead a good healthy lifestyle, I don't drink or smoke, and have the time and resources we would need to create warmth in the family, I work in education, and enjoy my challenging work very much. I am stable and able to provide security. What do you think of family? What do you think of raising children? I Imagine it must be very difficult for you as a single mother, how do you manage?"

"My interests are varied. I like to travel. I have been to many areas of the U.S. but New England is home. It is such a rich and varied region that even after a lifetime living here I feel I have barely begun to see and experience all that is available. I enjoy motorcycles, automobiles, computers, the Internet (obviously), working out at the local gym, running along the back roads, many other sports, hiking, going to the beach to name only a few. I also like to put on dressy or even formal wear and go out to dinner or to the opera, symphony, and even the ballet! I read a great deal and am interested in other cultures and people.

One of the largest problems that the ladies have is writing an answer. I deal with this in 2 ways, I leave pretty important information out, leaving them with questions they would have to ask to make an educated decision. I then when writing , use a lot of questions, every question mark gives her a reason to answer, the simple fact that you asked so many might produce a reply in itself. Telling a bit about what you enjoy gives plenty of room to ask a few good questions.

I look forward to knowing that you received my letter, and ask that you tell me as soon as you can if the dates I planned on would work for you. I really hope so. I had this letter translated and if it's easier for you to reply in Russian you may.

Here I have taken out the comments so you can read the altered letter

Dear Tatyana Nicholiyevich,

I am a decisive person, I make a decision and then carry it out. I have decided that if I must go to Russia to meet a lady like you, then I can do that. I able to visit you on (travel date), I have looked at my calendar and checked on a ticket. I am sure we could learn much about each other in person. Don't you think this is best? I am a very nice guy (at least I think so) and would love the opportunity to get to know you better. I am seeking a true love, a partner for life and someone to create a family with.

My interests are varied. I like to travel. but I have never been to Russia, I imagine my trip will be very interesting. Do you have any suggestions before I come? I have been all over the US but never to Europe, Do you enjoy traveling? I like to travel regularly, but traveling alone is not that fun. I like riding motorcycle, do you like riding them? Do you know how to drive? I like computers as well, interesting pieces of silicon. Do you have a computer to use to send electronic mail? Do you enjoy sports? I run every couple of days, to stay fit and healthy. I don't want to give you the wrong impression, I think my lifestyle is a good balance of cultural activities on the town as well as just enjoying home.

Sincerely Yours,
Tom,,
tom@mail.ru
(If I thought a another day on the letter, it's probably be better)

Some introduction letter composition do's and don't

Do personalize it, you'll need to focus on keywords she uses in her advertisement.

Don't talk bad about all the women you dated, do get into the details or past relations so on and so forth, they come later.

Leave out poems that might not translate well, they have their place.

Use simple English. hard not arduous simple not unadorned

Print your letter making it easy to read.

For every lady you decided to write go buy a nice Hallmark card or something, print your letter on nice paper and put a couple of photos in your letter and send it by regular mail. It will take about 2 weeks to get to it's destination.

On the third week send a follow up letter to any of the ladies you didn't get an answer from. Just a short note saying you were really hoping on hearing from her, and wanted to make sure she got the first letter. (you might send a copy)

3 months is plenty of time to correspond, rarely do we see any really pertinent content in letters after this amount of time. Most of the time people fall into exchanges of pleasantries and talk of the weather and the price of rice in China.

At some point you'll need to sit down and decide if there are to many to meet in person, and decide who seems to be best for you. I recommend meeting many ladies, the more the better.

Probably not best to send money to anyone if you'll whine about it later. Don't just drop the correspondence, send at least a dear Jane letter. Don't try to hide the fact that you are writing others. Be honest, and explain she should do the same. Don't break from your plan, don't enter a "I write you only - you write me only" pact with any of the ladies.

Regardless if you decide to write or just get on a plane I wish you the best. If there is anything I can do to help let me know. Comments and Suggestions always welcome.